Forgiveness Revisited

Good Morning Fairy World Inhabitors!

Today we have a card we have seen before Whom Do You Need to Forgive? The main message of this card is "As you release old anger or resentment, you will find that your wishes will come true."

As I have mentioned we have seen this card before, in the post "5 Reasons for Forgiveness". In that post we covered the reasons why we should forgive, but some things are easier said than done, so let's talk about how to forgive.

• First, let's remember that your adversary is feeling nothing from your actions, but the resentment is building up in you so let it go!!
• Second, take a step back and look at the big picture. There were a lot of people that were around you supporting you, regardless of the resentment you felt or the moods that it caused. Be grateful for them and their support.
• Third, make a list of the blessings from this event. They might be things to remember in the future that you do not want to engage in or even a new facet of your personality that you were not aware of. Good things always emerge from the unpleasant and overshadow everything else if you let them.
• Fourth, be kind to yourself. You have bottled up pain for a long time and it hurts! Even when you come to the conclusion that you had a active part in the situation, don't berate yourself for it. Just learn from it.
• Fifth, when you come in contact with your adversary, mentally send them a blessing! It is calming and compassionate. Think to yourself "I send them blessings as they probably need it right now." At first it might be a little foreign or contrived but blessings are energy. And energy good or bad always finds it's way back to you. The more blessings you send, the more you receive!
• Sixth and finally those feelings that you have for your adversary are valid, but at that moment they are only yours and effect only you, initially. Don't let them define that moment because you might miss out on something better!

Whew! That was a lot of deep thinking!

So I leave you with this final thought..when in doubt send blessing and sprinkle them with fairy dust!

Have a great day!

5 Reasons for Forgiveness

Good Morning Fairy World Inhabitors!

Ahhh...another beautiful morning in our lovely fairy world. It is Sunday, a time for a little extra rest for some, did you get yours?

The snow is through here with a hair over the 4" mark. Even though I do not care for winter anymore at this point, the untouched parts of my yard are quite scenic.

This morning's quiet time led me to pick a whopper of a card! Whom Do You Need to Forgive? This particular card has the message of "As you release old anger or resentment, you will find that your wishes will come true". Whopper indeed.

So to tackle today's topic, I will give you 5 reasons for forgiveness.

1. Holding a grudge is one of the most crippling things you can do. It sucks the life out of you. There is an old saying "If you hold a grudge you should dig 2 graves, one for the person and one for yourself".
2. The person that you are hold the grudge against might not be aware or if they are, they are past it. They aren't losing sleep or raising their blood pressure over it..just you.
3. Life is energy and the grudge blocks that energy. Can you feel it?
   
4. In the big picture of things, someone might have a grudge against you and you are past it or oblivious of it. You forgiving your grudge on someone else will cause a chain reaction of others forgiving theirs. TA-DA! No resentments!
5. It is just a calmer, more serene life to live.

The guide book also suggest that we forgive ourselves. That is a whopper too! Are you holding something in that you did and just cannot get past? Well my friend, right here, right now, LET IT GO! Seriously, can you change the initial action? NO. Can you change to immediate outcome of said action? NO. Can you change to long range outcome of the initial action? Yes, actually you can. If you cannot forgive yourself for something you carry this guilt with you. This will eat you alive, not being able to function guilt that just radiates off you like light in a mirror. How do you go on having healthy relationships if your past guilt is blinding everyone (metaphorically)?

Two other foods for thought.

First, the book suggest to stop judging others. We all make judgments that others would not. Like driving, someone brakes right in front of you. We shouldn't call them the choice name, instead we should quickly acknowledge that the made a decision to do something that you would not. Plain and simple, all done.

Second food for thought stop playing the victim! (As suggested by the guide book). Stop verbally trying to get more mileage out of what so and so said or did, how they wronged you. First take a good look to see what your part was in the whole situation. This goes back to the judging others thing. Were your ears tuned to hear what you thought you wanted to hear, good or bad, and not actually what is being said? And if it were true that the person has really wronged you, write it off and let it go...right there...right then, because it only grows.

Fairies are serene creatures that live a pure life and love nature. They encounter things they do not like, like littering and they encourage you to clean it up. They don't wage a battle against everyone for one person who litters. Let's learn from the fairies.

This was another day that the info just flowed out of my fingers. My hope is that I can apply my own advice on a full time basis!

Enjoy your day in our Fairy World!