Control Freak!?!?

Hello Fairy World Friends!

Today we have an amusing card, Let Go. The card's main message is "As you surrender the need to control, your relaxed energy rapidly attracts your desires."

Control freak. There I said it. So the question is are you one?

I am...sometimes. I can admit it. Especially when I have a vision of how something should play out. When I get fully entrenched in my determination that things go my exact way, I know that I do not play well with others. I know this. The good news about me, being that controlling is way too much work for my liking. Too much responsibility to!

Basically people are controlling because of fear. Fear that the situation won't be right, fear that other people will not listen to them or respect them. Fear that their idea has holes in it and does not measure up. Funny thing about fear though, it clouds our judgement and we forget how to trust.

We forget the basic principle that we have God on our side and things will work out fine without the micro-managing fest. We also forget that we should trust ourselves to carry out whatever we are taking on, because well, why couldn't we do it? And finally we are forgetting to trust our fellow man that they have the ability to work with us, enriching the process on their own instead of telling them what to do every second.

Okay, so let's leave it go, have it carry out in a natural way and put our best efforts towards the common good!

Have a great day and sprinkle on the fairy dust!

This Just In..We Can Be Honest With Ourselves

Happy Saturday Fairy World Followers!

Rise and shine and get going, it's gonna be a great day!

It is interesting that we have picked this card today, Admit Your True Feelings to Yourself. This card's main meaning is "Be honest with yourself. Only you know what you truly desire."

I said interesting, because even though we are a 7 day a week world, the weekend sometimes allow times for some extra thinking. We will definitely need that to tackle this subject!

I believe at this time we should focus more on what we are afraid of. Those are true feelings. If we face our fears, truly then nothing can hold us back.

FDR said in his address in 1933 "The only thing we have to fear is fear it'self-nameless, unreasoning, unjustified, terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance." This is one of the most famous quotes ever spoken about the subject of fear. But what FDR was saying was not just a zinger in a speech for the headlines, but the truth.

Fear can paralyze us. Stop us from doing, being, accomplishing. Fear is our personal black cloud that hangs over our heads. Funny thing though we do not recognize it always as fear.

We can call it many things or describe it with many actions but in reality it is fear. Why do we dream and flat out refuse to help ourselves? Fear. Why do we make incredible things and have incredible talents and then cannot even acknowledge them to ourselves? Fear. We are so scared of the worst possible scenario that we refuse to live and enjoy the greatest scenario when it comes along.

Are we going to get hurt? Well yes, there is a huge possibility of that happening. But that is part of living, it has to be. How would we learn, how would we grow if we didn't come across all the possibilities that there are?

Fear lives in the ego. We have to put the ego to rest and no fear. We do this by acknowledging our fears.

I feel if we do not acknowledge them and put our fears on the back burner functioning around them, two things happen. First we are not really living. And second, when we do things while this fear is front and center, we taint all outcomes because we are expecting the worse. We send off this weird vibe that looks like a huge neon sign pointing at you saying "Hey everyone this sucks! I suck. I am no good. Don't buy my stuff. Don't pay attention to me. Be rude to me!" I have seen this sign over my head.

We have to put ourselves out there and take chances and learn from the outcomes. I have come to the conclusion that I would rather try and fail then not try because I "knew" I was gonna fail.

So let's pick apart our fears this weekend, look at the worse case scenario and decide that the worse things cannot run our lives. Let's put or egos to rest and live, really, really live!

Enjoy your weekend, sprinkled with fairy dust!

Easy Does It

Good Morning Fairy World Inhabitors!

Today let's jump right in. We have pulled the card Easy Does It. The card's main meaning is "Stop trying so hard to control everything and all the doors will open for you."

So, we need to be more laid back do we?

This is so probably true. I think that we really need to look at the situations that we try to control and discover why. Why is it so important that something goes precisely the way we want it to?

The guidebook suggests fear. We have to control a situation because we fear an outcome other than the one we have envisioned. Okay I get this one. But now I wonder why we are so worried about any other outcome aside from our chosen one.

Is it that we will get our feeling hurt? Will we not get the particular item that we want? Will someone not act the we we believe they should? So is it fair to say that it ultimately about us?

Boy, I am guilty of this as much as the next person. Compared to some people I know, I am an amateur, but I have had my moments of needing to have the upper hand. But even though I have done it more than once, I find at the end of the day that the control that was so necessary was more work and more tiring than the other possible outcomes to the situation.

So I think we need to go back to the fear issue. What are we so afraid of? That has to be discovered with each situation, but what I really believe what we will discover is that our ego is crying out. Our ego is hurt.

I also know that when our ego cries out, we are in the midst of losing our vision of our true selves. Losing is a strong word, how about ignoring? We are ignoring our true selves.

Because simply if we are in tune with the four basic rules (be good to yourself, be good to others, learn our lessons,take notes and love God) we should come out all right in any situation. Then we have nothing to be afraid of so no need for control.

That being said, we can do all of this and on the surface an outcome is not exactly preferable and maybe hurts our feelings. Well, we have to remember that hurt feelings are a hurt ego. We have to them step back and look at the lesson we have to learn.

Take a deep breath fairy friends, we are learning a lot and putting a lot into practice. It will get easier!

Today, I do not have an affirmation necessarily, but I do have a thought via @annq, a twitter friend of mine "Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow. It only robs today of its joy. Leo Buscaglia"

So sprinkle that fairy dust around, and have a great day. (And if you happen to running out of fairy dust, there is always more in the shop. Click on the picture below and order some more!)

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Living Up to Your Standards

Hello Fairy Friends!

I hope all is well with all of you in my absence!

Today we have the card Raising Your Standards. The card's meaning is: "Don't settle for less than your dreams. Once you make the commitment to manifest an improved situation, the Universe will find a way to deliver it to you."

This is an interesting card. The guide book suggests that deep down we know the life we want to live and we keep selling ourselves short with our negative "I can't...", "I don't deserve...", and "It will never happen." I have a saying in my house, "If your think it's gonna suck...it's gonna suck!"

I guess it is all about our level of expectation. Our standards. Do we expect the most out of ourselves or are we expecting to fail? Or do we cop to the attitude that others don't give us their personal best so why should we?

This is a fine line to walk on because are we striving to our personal best, our highest standards for ourselves or others? The answer should be ourselves. Hands down. (Even though I forget myself..often!) And also, do we have high standards because we want to be boastful about it or just because that is the way we live our lives? Told you it was a fine line. lol

Our lives are interesting things to navigate. We can do it naturally, if we would just allow ourselves. Our hearts know what to do. But somehow we let that little gremlin, our ego take over and suddenly it is all for naught. Our lives then go in two different directions. Either we become bitchy (for the lack of a better word) and competitive and end up burning ourselves out trying to navigate the rough waters. Or we just give, convincing ourselves that we will never be good enough for anything and at some point we just stop trying.

I think we forget that either version mentioned above is not life. Life should be down the middle. Down the middle doesn't mean the it is the perfect straight path, because we would not learn our lessons that way. But down the middle means that we steer through our journey with the confidence that any obstacles can and will be handled with the grace and dexterity of the persons that we are. We know what we can achieve and we do. This emanates from us onto others, giving them the confidence to do the same thing in their lives.

We essentially become mentors, guides for each other. We show each other that life, a successful, prosperous life can be lived without all the turmoil.

I think that we all forget what we could have, what we should have. The glorious life of our dreams!

So think about, pray about and leave your heart open. Everything is right there ahead and we don't have to sacrifice our very selves to have it all. We just have to live up to our standards!

Today's affirmation is "I deserve and expect the best in life. I hold high standards for myself."

Have a wonderful day, sprinkled with fairy dust!

What Do We Have to Fear?

Good Day Fairy World Inhabitors!

Hope your day is progressing as you wish!

Today's card is Miracle Healing. The card's main meaning is "Expect a miracle. You have prayed for assistance, and it is forthcoming. The more completely you surrender your situation to God, the more rapidly you will realize your healing."

Today's affirmation is "In truth, everything and everyone, including myself, is healed right now. I focus on this truth, instead of an illusion of fear."

The guidebook suggest that we are tired of contemplating the situation, whatever it is. And if we say essentially, "God, I am tired, please take care of this. Thank you" God will. And I truly believe that.

Now there is a lesson in every situation, at least that is my belief and the lesson is in the affirmation. Focus on truth, instead of the illusion of fear.

Fear is definitely an illusion. Fear is when a small idea starts in the brain and goes totally out of control. Fear is what drives the ego.

An inflamed ego is a dangerous thing because it leads to "I am not good enough" "I am not pretty enough", "I am too fat", "I am too thin", "I don't measure up!" And the insanity grows on and on until it has infected every part of one's being. All illusions! But what do they stem from? Where do they start?

I believe it is our personal failure to know and love our true selves. All the above named fears are based on a measuring stick that we hold up to others. But what makes them special? Why are our examples of perfect the be all end all? Somehow we have covered over the true person underneath. That gem we keep piling dirt on instead of taking out and polishing daily. Why is this?

I guess we can blame it on society and the standards that it sets for us as human beings. That may be true but when exactly did we decide that we could not stand out? When we all decide to become lemmings?

Suggesting that one embraces their true self should not be considered rebellion either. It is not bucking the system, it is being a stream, our stream, not main stream. My stream might zig zag right and left, but that is okay because it is mine!

If we all follow that basic teachings that are their to guide our lives, Be good to yourself, Be good to others, Love God, Take notes and learn the lessons along the way, what does it matter in which direction we go? Seriously, pink hair, purple hair, blonde hair. What is the difference if it is yours?

It has been said that most wars including the ones that we are currently involved with are fought over religion or religious beliefs. I think we need to boil it down a little further. All these conflicts were engaged in out of fear. Fear of being different than the other.

Know our true selves! Embrace our true selves! We have nothing to fear! Alas, we have our miracle healing! Sprinkled with fairy dust of course.

Love your selves, love each other. Enjoy your day!